Confidence Engineering - Part 1: Why the Trust Discourse Is Sabotaging Itself
Stop asking if you can trust AI. Start building confidence in systems you understand. The trust discourse is sabotaging adoption with the wrong frame.

Stop asking if you can trust AI. Start asking what would give you confidence in systems you've built, observed, and refined.
The AI trust discourse is stuck. Organizations ask “can we trust AI?” and get nowhere because trust is relational and emotional. It has no engineering solution. The question permits indefinite delay.
Confidence is different. Confidence is empirical. It builds through observation and degrades through failure. It has criteria you can define, measure, and demonstrate. This series reframes AI adoption from a feelings problem to an engineering problem, then gives you the framework to solve it.
“We’re not ready to trust AI yet” is unfalsifiable. It’s a feeling masquerading as a decision criterion.
Meanwhile, the technology isn’t waiting for your trust. It’s waiting for your engineering discipline. The same discipline you’ve applied to every other system in production: understand what it does, observe its behavior, test your assumptions, refine based on outcomes.
Somewhere along the way, AI got exempted from these principles. Confidence Engineering brings them back.
Part 1: Why the Trust Discourse Is Sabotaging Itself The concerns are legitimate. Job displacement anxiety is real. Uncertainty about AI behavior is real. But trust is the wrong container. It anthropomorphizes the relationship between humans and systems and creates a problem engineering can’t solve. This part reframes the question from “can we trust it?” to “what would give us confidence?”
Part 2: The Practice A framework for building confidence through five components: observable criteria, instrumentation, staged authority, feedback loops, and confidence metrics. This part applies the reframe to actual systems, drawing from the author’s experience using AI-assisted tooling to write code again after years of architecture work.
Part 3: Adoption Déjà Vu You’ll build the instrumentation. Leadership will nod at the dashboard. Then nothing will happen. The same organizational patterns that killed SRE adoption, DevOps transformation, and cloud migration will kill your AI governance. This part addresses the preconditions that actually matter: servant leadership, psychological safety, and willingness to act on evidence when the answer is uncomfortable.
AI adoption is stalling not because the technology isn’t ready, but because organizations don’t have frameworks for deploying it with appropriate confidence levels. The binary choice between “trust completely” and “don’t use at all” ignores how you’ve built confidence in every other system you operate.
You don’t trust your monitoring. You instrument it, measure it, and refine it based on outcomes. AI is no different.
Technical leaders tired of the trust discourse who want to actually ship AI-enabled systems. Architects designing platforms that incorporate AI capabilities. Operations teams inheriting AI tools and needing to build confidence in them. Anyone who’s noticed that “we need to trust AI” and “we can’t trust AI” both lead to the same outcome: nothing gets deployed.
This series connects to Platform Resiliency, which argues that AI tools belong in the platform layer. It connects to The Poetry of Code, which addresses the fear directly. And it extends into AI Observability, which provides the instrumentation that makes confidence measurable.
Observe. Question. Iterate. Challenge. Verify. Then do it all over again. That’s confidence engineering applied to confidence engineering itself.

Stop asking if you can trust AI. Start building confidence in systems you understand. The trust discourse is sabotaging adoption with the wrong frame.

A framework for building confidence in AI-enabled systems through observable criteria, instrumentation, and staged authority expansion. Theory meets practice.

You'll build the instrumentation. Leadership will nod at the dashboard. Then nothing will happen. The same organizational failure that killed SRE adoption.